Knowing if you’re choosing the right path or not can feel agonising, especially during a decision-making process. I’ve dealt with it first-hand at numerous stages of my life. In fact, I’m facing some hard decisions right now, which inspired me to write.
We often hear the phrase, ‘go with your gut’, which I agree with and stand by. But, I’ve dealt with situations in my life where my head has been split in two, and I haven’t been able to hear what my gut is telling me.
I wanted to use my experience to explain what choosing the right path should look and feel like, and the signs to look out for when it’s the right one.
1. Life on the other side lights you up
The feeling of expansion (lightness, openness, excitement and a sense of possibility), rather than contraction (feeling heavy, guarded, tense and stuck), is the first sign to look out for when making a life decision. This is your gut, as I mentioned earlier, working to offer a clear indication that you’re choosing the right path.
However, as I alluded to, the feeling of expansion isn’t always easy to find, or immediate. That’s why practising meditation around the time of making a big decision can be life-changing. I’ve manifested successful job interviews using the law of attraction that led to two career-changing offers on the table, and repeated the scenario since. Meditation was crucial for getting to my gut feeling, because having two job offers in the same line of work made it difficult to differentiate between the expansion and contraction in my gut – they both made me excited.
To meditate as a beginner, I recommend using guided meditations on YouTube, ideally, specific to the problem you’re trying to solve. When I was manifesting a new job, I listened to the same job-focused meditation that sent me on a journey through the process of getting the job and how it would make me feel. This helped me to hyperfocus on what I needed from the job and understand where I was feeling the most expansion. For example, when meditating about the day-to-day aspects of the new job I wanted – sitting at my desk, surrounded by my new work colleagues and opening my Macbook Air – I was able to pay close attention to the feelings of expansion or contraction during my visualisation, without the day-to-day distractions or influences on my desires.
2. You are the best version of yourself
Are you being kind to others, feeling in a state of flow, living more intentionally and being grateful? From personal experience, I’ve noticed that when I’m choosing the right path, my actions demonstrate my inner feelings and I show up as the best version of myself, naturally. I become the person I was meant to be by maintaining my healthy, loving practices and avoiding self-destruction.
On the other side of this, I have been faced with decisions that have outwardly given me stress, anxiety and, honestly, led to me drinking more heavily, eating constant takeaways and ruminating over the decision in every waking moment. From experience, these are the behaviours that demonstrate the decision might not be in your best interest.
Even more seriously, suffering from burnout can be a clear indication that you’re on the wrong path. I briefly discuss burnout in my intentional living blog post. I will preface that burnout is not always the indicator of a bad path, as it is possible to overwork yourself to fulfil your deepest passion. But, in my case, I was burning the candle at both ends to live in a persona I had created for myself that was completely out of alignment with who I truly wanted to be.
When it happened, I abandoned my peaceful daily tasks of practising gratitude and using my beloved Deluxe Law of Attraction 12-Month Planner by Freedom Mastery. Instead, I cried, complained and was riddled with anxiety all day while doing nothing about it, because I couldn’t find it in me. Of course, the law of attraction’s guiding principle of like attracts like meant that without my positive habits, I was quickly slipping into a hole of perpetually low vibrations. The path of self-destruction continued until, one day, I decided to make a singular better choice. It was a gratitude practice, The Magic, that ended up changing my life. You can read about it in my blog, The Magic by Rhonda Byrne | Review and lessons.
3. Time stands still
When you’re in alignment, focusing on your passion can cause time to stand still. I’m writing this blog post while the sun is going down, and I’m sitting in near-darkness with the white glare of the screen lighting up the room. I should have gone to bed earlier, but words are pouring and I can’t stop. Routines are important to me, as I wrote about in my daily routine blogging, but my desire to write is so strong that I often lose track of time. So, on a down day, losing myself in writing immediately reminds me that it’s my greatest passion of all.
4. It feels scary, but empowering
Fear is necessary. Blogging can feel scary to me, as, like many other people, I fear judgement. I share from the heart, putting my reflections and feelings on the internet. Yet, the pull for me to post on my blog is greater than the feeling of someone laughing at it.
I’ve previously shared about my summer in America on my blog. It took seeing a photo of two girls dangling their feet over a rock in California to give me an immediate flashback to the Camp America application I never finished five years prior. Five minutes after looking at the photo, I rushed into the living room where my now fiancé was sitting, and told him of my dream of going. The gut feeling was there, and, despite my older age, the logistical nightmare, and leaving my seemingly perfect life in London, I left the country to pursue it, and I’m so glad I did.
Don’t choose a path out of a place of fear
When paired with excitement, fear can be a positive step that will signify you’re going out of your comfort zone. Acting out of fear, on the other hand, will have the opposite effect. For example, if you’ve been made redundant from your job and decide that your current career path is no longer in alignment with who you are, don’t put pressure on yourself to have it figured out. Sometimes, moving to a job that you accept isn’t forever and focusing on making slow, intentional steps to raise your vibration will be much more effective in positively changing your circumstances. After all, with the right vibration, you might end up joining your dream company unknowingly or finding a different path entirely.
5. You see physical signs, opportunities and coincidences
It’s funny, but when you live in alignment with your values, practise the law of attraction, and are presented with a situation that has the potential to put you on the right path, the physical signs start to appear. I was sceptical about signs as someone who, prior to starting my journey with the law of attraction, didn’t believe in it.
But, I’ve received the signs first-hand, seeing 11:11 daily, opportunities coming out of the blue, and people I’ve thought about, who I haven’t seen in years, appearing right before my eyes on the street. It’s the signs that act as a leader for me, providing the greatest guidance of all in choosing the right path.
Are you choosing the right path?
As a parting note, you should never compare your journey to those of others, and listen to your gut and heart. Deep down, I know that writing is my path. My question to you is, what’s yours? I’d love to know in the comments.
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